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Married Couples

Ministry for Married Couples
 
Worldwide Marriage Encounter
Would you like to bring more understanding, closeness and romance to your marriage? Attend a Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend to renew and enrich your marriage, and you faith! Worldwide Marriage Encounter is a series of presentations given by a team of Catholic couples and a priest.  Each presentation allows you and your spouse a rare opportunity to look at yourselves as individuals, then to look at your marriage and your relationship to one another, and finally to look at your relationship to God, the Church and the world.  It is not group therapy, but a time for a couple to privately reflect on their marriage. Marriage Encounter is for couples who want to improve their communication, deepen their love, and enrich their faith.  Contact the Parish Office, or visit www.wwme.org or www.EncounterMichigan.org

ReFOCCUS:  Growth and change are ongoing within marriage. REFOCCUS is an online inventory and discussion guide for couples designed to be used by a couple multiple times throughout their marriage. Each time a couple uses REFOCCUS, their responses are a snap shot of that point in time. Their current responses indicate: a) what needs discussing today, b) what the couple has achieved that can be celebrated, and c) what would benefit from further discussion.  REFOCCUS is ultimately about bringing awareness to major aspects of marriage. Further, it is about the discussion that happens between the couple after taking the Inventory and the communication and problem solving that is utilized and developed.  http://www.foccusinc.com/refoccus-inventory.aspx 

For Your Marriage
The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops Web site is designed to promote healthy marriages with everything from daily marriage tips to statistics on divorce, cohabitation and caring for aging parents.
 
Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills (PAIRS)
Developed by Lori H. Gordon, Ph.D., PAIRS provide a comprehensive system to enhance self-knowledge and to develop the ability to sustain intimate relationships. Contact Rev. Mr. and Mrs. Dan and Vicki Schneider, certified teaching couple.
 
Difficult Times in Marriage & Struggling Marriages

Holy Family is here for you as you navigate the seasons or difficulties of your marriage.  Please contact the Parish Office if you would like to discuss resources, get referrals to competent Catholic therapists we trust, or have questions. 

Retrouvaille
For couples contemplating separation or divorce, whose marriages have become troubled or stressed, unloving or uncaring, cold or distant; or for those already separated or divorced who want to try again … help is available! Retrouvaille (a French word meaning rediscovery) offers the tools needed to rediscover a loving marriage relationship. For information, call (616) 752-7004 or email [email protected]. All calls are kept in the strictest confidence.
Infant Loss/Miscarriage:  Elizabeth Ministry:  An international movement designed to support women and their families during the joys, trials and sorrows of the childbearing years. Provides peer support, mentoring, spiritual nourishment, educational and inspirational resources. The organization is particularly noted for its pastoral care strategies for miscarriage.  Holy Family also has resources and can provide referrals to local support and assistance; contact the Parish Office for more information.
Infertility: Elizabeth Ministry International and Pope Paul VI Institute for the Study of Human Reproduction provide support, assistance and information on options, NaPro Technology, and more.  Holy Family also has several referrals locally for support and assistance; the Parish Office for more information.
Domestic Violence:  “The Catholic Church teaches that violence against another person in any form fails to treat that person as someone worthy of love. Instead, it treats the person as an object to be used. When violence occurs within a sacramental marriage, the abused spouse may question, "How do these violent acts relate to my promise to take my spouse for better or for worse?" The person being assaulted needs to know that acting to end the abuse does not violate the marriage promises. While violence can be directed towards men, it tends to harm women and children more.” http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/domestic-violence/when-i-call-for-help.cfm.  Holy Family has several referral sources for marriages where violence is present; contact Fr. Loc Trinh in the Parish Office.  Or, The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides crisis intervention and referrals to local service providers. Call 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224 (TTY). For more information, go to www.thehotline.org. Hotline Advocates are available to chat online, Monday to Friday, 9AM-7PM CST.
Addictions:  If you or your spouse in the past month has taken a drink first thing in the morning to help you recover from a hangover you may be dealing with an addiction problem. … In addition to the person with the addiction, there is often a spouse who suffers from co-dependency. Read more.  Holy Family is here for you as you navigate the seasons or difficulties of your marriage.  Please contact the Parish Office if you would like to discuss resources, get referrals to competent Catholic therapists we trust, find an AA or other support group, or have questions. 
Unemployment:  At first it probably sounds simple. Get a job to pay the bills so we can live happily ever after. But jobs take a lot of time and sometimes that time is stolen from the time that the marriage relationship needs. Read more.  Also see: When Unemployment Hits Home: Seven Ways to Help Your Marriage.  Holy Family is here for you as you navigate the seasons or difficulties of your marriage.  Please contact the Parish Office if you would like to discuss resources, get referrals to competent Catholic therapists we trust, or have questions. 
Finances:  Financial counselors often point to finances as the most common cause of divorce. That’s only partially true.Financial problems are as much a result of how we think about money as how we spend it. Read more.  See also: Living Simply: A Lasting and Fulfilling Way of Life.  Holy Family is here for you as you navigate the seasons or difficulties of your marriage.  Please contact the Parish Office if you would like to discuss resources, get referrals to competent Catholic therapists we trust, or have questions. 
Infidelity:  Healing a marriage when there has been infidelity takes teamwork. Both spouses must commit to getting the marriage back, or possibly getting to where it never was. This calls for courage.  Read more See also: Getting Past the Affair . Holy Family is here for you as you navigate the seasons or difficulties of your marriage.  Please contact the Parish Office if you would like to discuss resources, get referrals to competent Catholic therapists we trust, or have questions. 
Pornography:  Pornography damages the trust and intimacy within the husband-wife relationship and can even lead to the end of the marriage itself. It draws focus away from one’s family life and relationship with God and sets a destructive example for one’s children. In 2015, the bishops published a formal statement on this subject, called "Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography." Read or order the statement here, in English and Spanish.  See also: How to Strengthen Your Marriage After Porn Addiction 
USCCB Resources:
Help for men and women struggling with pornography use and addiction: a list of support groups, books, videos, and more
Faith and Safety: a website with advice for parents on how to protect the home from Internet pornography and other digital dangers
Church teaching on pornography plus three talks on the subject
Daniel Spadaro, "Life Matters: Pornography and Our Call to Love" (Respect Life Program, 2012)
"The Internet and Pornography" (Child and Youth Protection office)